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In the Beginning – Chapter 1.1

It was strangely warm and humid that winter day. The pretty, 20 year-old girl with brown hair and matching eyes looked as though she might burst from the life kicking inside her. She occupied herself with chores around the humble mobile home that was our abode in the tiny hamlet of Mineral Wells, Texas.

TimAndDadAnd she waited.

The date was January 15th 1982, and there was hope. Hope and optimism were ever present on that unusually warm winter day.

And we waited.

A warm meal, a night of television, and a warm blanket filled the time as we noticed a sudden shift in the temperature. This is a common phenomenon in Texas. It’s not unusual for the weather to turn on a dime. An undeniable maxim in Texas is that if the weather is balmy in winter, a glacial freeze is coming—and come it did. Continue reading

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Grateful Hearts

“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life.  It turns what we have into enough, and more.  It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity.  It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.  Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.”

– Melody Beattie

I was poking around Facebook and witnessed a plethora of heart-felt “I’m thankful for…” posts. Then I looked at my wall and found a bunch of smart-ass comments because I was hoping to make my friends laugh. But, eventually, all the serious posts induced a contemplative moment. So allow me a moment of sobriety. Well, maybe not sobriety but, perhaps, seriousness.

GratitudeThanksgiving is a day we set aside to contemplate the many blessings in our lives—to really think about specific examples of our good fortune. I have so many I can’t possibly enumerate them all, but I’d like to mention just a few.

To begin with, I’m unable to express with mere words how thankful I am for my children—all three of them. Like all kids, they have brought into my life indescribable pain and frustration, but I don’t really remember that very clearly because of what I do remember with crystal clarity. What I remember is all the joy they brought into my life.

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A Modest Proposal

I remember the exact moment I fell in love with Heidi.

I looked up from brushing my teeth to find her standing in the doorway of my bathroom clad only in toe- nail polish and holding a bottle of my favorite beer.

A Modest ProposalLove, it seems to me, is fraught with perilous events, things over which we feel we have very little control, but are somehow propelled toward, which is why I think men try so hard to avoid it.  I learned this first-hand when I became engaged to Heidi some 14 years ago.  My decision to become engaged was actually brought on by a “discussion” that occurred the night before I proposed.  Heidi and I don’t have fights; we have “discussions”—and the discourse to which I refer was our first since I started seeing her. Continue reading

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